1. Unexpected contraction
Of course, it happens when you least expect it. You don’t know what to do, so you writhe in pain, sometimes making strange noises. The desire for sex passes, and the spell of elation breaks in proportion to the strength of the contraction. You both remain powerless as your partner stares, waiting for it to pass.
2. Difficulty putting on a condom
Opening the package, proper application, long nails plus that awkward moment. You know you have to do it, but nothing is going your way. Time and desire can disappear.
3. You realize that orgasm is unattainable
Your intercourse lasts, it’s nice, but you already know that this way you will not reach climax. You don’t know whether to guide him or give up and wait for him to finish it or pretend.
4. Sudden decline of strength
He was very involved, but you can see that he has no strength left and would like to lie on his back and give himself to you. Despite everything, he tries to pretend that he is full of vigor, although there is already a drop of sweat on his forehead.
5. Air getting in
You’re in all sorts of weird positions, so you’re gasping for air and making these perfectly normal but awkward noises that you don’t know how to handle.
6. You don’t know if it’s over
You don’t feel like it’s over, but he seems to stop moving, makes a few noises, and freezes. Ask or continue?
7. Pushing the head towards the crotch
You know exactly what he wants and you don’t require such blunt directions. He doesn’t say it explicitly, and you may not feel like it, and you jostle with him, focusing your attention on the fight rather than the intercourse.
Seven bedroom mistakes we make in our 30s
Lazy sex
Routine sex doesn’t mean disaster as long as you don’t skip steps and do it with your heart. Lazy sex means no getting to know each other, no creativity, no motivation, no foreplay of any kind and means almost schematic, ritualistic intercourse. It is worth taking care of exploring new spheres of pleasure of your partner. No one will feel uncomfortable with small experiments. You know each other well, don’t you?
Panic from lack of desire
Passion and lust come and go depending on the day and the hour. When he’s gone, don’t panic and look for reasons in the quality of your relationship. Sometimes regular sex brings back the heat.
Giving up sex after pregnancy
A child changes everything. That’s true. It requires a lot of attention, feelings, and also causes great stress and fatigue. That’s the role of a parent. In such a situation, however, it is not worth losing yourself and neglecting your partner. A happy child is one with happy parents. If you don’t care about your relationship, you don’t care about your child either. If you haven’t had sex lately and you’d rather go to sleep than get close, give it a try. It’ll do you good.
Forgetting about the clitoris
97 percent of women need even a little clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Most couples forget about this and assume that it should occur through vaginal -penis contact. Showing your partner your places of pleasure is the only right solution. If he doesn’t know them, it’s time to guide him and remind him of the pleasure they can give you.
Blaming painful sex
Painful intercourse is a problem for many women, especially after childbirth. In the long run, it is associated with avoiding close-ups and lowering libido. This is an issue that needs to be addressed. The solution may be physical therapy or better preparation for penetration.
Comparing to others
Some people talk about their intimate life with friends. Comparing the number of familiar relationships with those that your loved ones had with each other is not reliable. The frequency is to be adjusted to your needs, no one else’s.
Taking sex too seriously
Without having fun during sex, it can’t be pleasant and healthy. Seriousness and approaching it in a schematic way, sometimes under duress, leads to criticism of yourself and your partner. Over time, we view sex together negatively. You can’t be a perfectionist in every detail, including here. The bed is a field for small and large experiments – it all depends on temperament, courage and character.